
It’s not the flashiest ornament on our tree.
Formed in the shape of a snowman, made of green clay and splashed with some faded red paint, it is obviously the work of a young child. It’s been hung with delicate care on our tree for 13 years, and it never fails to draw tears for the brave young lady who made it for me.
I met three-year-old Jazmine in the early winter of 1995, just after I was assigned to make a portrait of her for the Sioux Falls Argus Leader. Her story was unique, and tragic. She was living with AIDS, and her mother had just died from the disease that November. Unknowingly passed to her at birth, AIDS was ravishing her young body, keeping her mostly in the hospital and in confusing pain.
As I listened to her story, I couldn’t help but think that this situation demanded more attention than the Argus was planning to give it. I went back to the newsroom and successfully bargained to photograph Jazmine for a couple of weeks, the intended result being a tidy little photo essay about a sick child and her family.
But nothing about Jazmine’s story was tidy. I followed her and her aunt Gretchen for several weeks as they dealt with numerous setbacks to the girl’s health. I endured Jazmine’s cries for her mother late at night, and listened to her moans of pain as AIDS attacked her body. I also experienced moments of pure joy. I watched her blow out the candles on her birthday cake. I watched her smile as she saw a mountain of presents waiting for her under the Christmas tree at her house. I smiled as she handed me the newly minted green Christmas ornament, and got a little weepy when I turned it over and read the simple words, “For Greg. From Jazmine.”
Jazmine’s photo essay finally ran in the Argus on February 27, 1996. We got a lot of positive feedback about it, and I think the Borgum family felt good about allowing Jazmine’s story to touch others in the community. I went about my work, but never really forgot about Jazmine.
I wasn’t prepared for the inevitable phone call. Gretchen called a few months later to tell me that Jazmine’s battle was over, and would I like to come and photograph the funeral? All of those emotions came rushing back in full force as I hung up the phone.
It was a nice funeral, and it was a relief to see Jazmine at peace. No more hurt, no more crying, no more disease. Just peace. She was buried next to her mother as her two young brothers and the rest of us watched in silence.
Every now and then, my kids will ask about the funny-looking ornament as I hang it on the tree, and I tell them the story of a young girl who was wise beyond her years and willing to share her painful story with a stranger.
I miss her, and I hope that somewhere she is having a wonderful Christmas season.
(Click here for the Argus photo essay)